Therapy for Perfectionism
& Low Self-Esteem
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Freedom and courage are closer than you think. You can do this. I can help.
Being able to love who you are right now is one of the many keys to achieving peace. I will guide you on how to live in the present with a focus on gratitude and self-compassion.
When everything you do has to be perfect, it's hard to fully experience life.
You’ve always done great work. Exemplary. Perfect, even. But it’s not always easy. You work at it. You work hard for it. You bust your ass with everything you do to make sure it is absolutely, positively, perfect.
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Perfectionism can show up in many ways.
You…
…lay in bed tossing and turning replaying every choice you ever made.
…feel inadequate despite your accomplishments.
…feel as though no matter what you do, it’s never good enough. And that if anything is less than 100% perfect it's a failure.
…avoid situations out of fear that you will slip up and people will see the “real” you.
…work till exhaustion in order to avoid mistakes.
If any of these ring true for you, you are not alone. When we strive to be perfect or focus on our flaws we are stealing joy from the present.
There might be a new hobby or a new skill you’ve always wanted to try, but you’ve stopped yourself because you’re afraid you won’t be perfect on day 1. There may be some things that you have tried but quickly gave up because you couldn’t meet your own impossibly high expectations.
You know, intellectually, that this doesn’t make sense. You know in your rational mind that it’s impossible to be a classical piano virtuoso the first time you sit in front of the keys, but you can’t stop feeling like you must be.
Self-doubt, constantly berating yourself, negative self-talk, and a sense of failure are more common than you may think.
But the truth is, they're simply lies we tell ourselves.
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Low Self-Esteem can be reflected in many ways.
You…
…feel like everyone is laughing at you and everyone remembers that time you did that one thing wrong.
…secretly worry that maybe no one actually likes you. Somewhere deep inside you know this can’t be true but those rational thoughts have no bearing on your feelings.
…rehearse what to say or replay all the “stupid” things you said and mistakes you made.
…struggle with feelings of not being worthy or deserving the best things in life.
…compare yourself to others, downplay your achievements, and hide from praise.
Low self-esteem can also create people-pleasing tendencies. People-pleasers are often overworked, unappreciated, and taken for granted. You compromise your own happiness for everyone around you and now you can’t escape this pattern. You are exhausted from the act, leaving nothing for your partner or family, let alone yourself.
Insecurities hold you back from your dreams, joy, and fulfillment. You fear setting the bar too high so you downplay your achievements and become invisible. Maybe you second guess if you are even worthy or cut out for your job, being a parent, or a good enough partner.
Self-love is not selfish. In fact, the single most important thing we can do is to love ourselves.
I can help you develop tools to build confidence and let go of the perfectionism that is ruling your life so you can live with freedom and experience the present moment.
Therapy for Perfectionism and Self-Esteem can help you…
Gain valuable insight to identify the source of your perfectionism and lack of self-esteem.
Learn to set boundaries to challenge these negative thought patterns.
Reduce insecurities by understanding the root cause and how to change the narrative.
Build courage to explore your authentic self so you can redefine your goals and purpose.
Disconnect your self-worth from its tie to achievement.
Grow confidence so you can make decisions without second-guessing or regretting your choices.
Learn to no longer fear mistakes or failure.
Feel empowered to trust yourself and completely accept yourself so you can start living out your values with confidence and self-assurance.
Although it may not feel like it now, it is entirely possible to live a more carefree life in which you embrace each new day with a sense of calm.
Truly loving yourself is possible, and when you achieve this it will impact each and every part of your life. Improved relationships, peaceful days, and a fulfilled life are just around the corner..
Together, we will get you there.
FAQs
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In our first session together, we will focus on getting to know each other and identifying the challenges you are facing. We will discuss your mental health history as it pertains to our work together. I will gain insight into your background, family systems, personal relationships, and any other areas affecting your daily life. We will continue to build on this foundation during each following therapy session.
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A common misconception about therapy is that it is for people suffering from mental illnesses. The truth is everyone can benefit from therapy. Regardless of the severity of the challenges you are facing, you deserve to be here. Some common reasons for attending therapy are life changes, relationship struggles, low self-esteem, anxiety, and substance abuse. Even if none of these situations describe you, I encourage you to reach out and explore how much better life can get with therapy.
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Therapy attendance can be like going to the gym. The more often and consistently you go, the better the results. The frequency of our therapy sessions remains up to you. Weekly or bi-monthly meetings are the most common choices for attendees.
Believe and invest in yourself so you can feel deeply fulfilled, confident, and at peace.
If you’re ready to try new things, live in the moment and experience all of life’s beautiful imperfections, I can help you learn how.
Heather Srncik, LCSW
Eager to feel different? I can help.
If you’re motivated, ready to dig in, and wanting to experience all life has in store for you, schedule your free consultation. We can begin our work together.
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