Marriage & Couples Counseling

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“At your absolute best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person. At your worst, you'll still be worth it to the right person.”
― Karen Salmansohn

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Does your relationship feel stuck or unsatisfying?

Feeling disconnected from one another?

Perhaps this is a new relationship and you want to build a strong foundation?

Do you feel like you are having the same arguments over and over without getting anywhere?

Do you wake up feeling like you no longer know who your partner is?

Couples Counseling can help. Utilizing research-based (ACT)

Acceptance & Commitment Therapy & Gottman Method I will help you:

Heal from past conflicts and build new strategies for handling disagreements
Change the unhealthy patterns of communicating and coping that are pulling you apart
Rebuild intimacy and connection to bring you closer
Strengthen your foundation by fostering respect, trust, fondness and admiration

I will help you through this process, customizing your journey to the unique needs of your situation. My approach to couples counseling comes from a space of understanding and compassion.

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1.   Build Love Maps: How well do you know your partner’s inner psychological world, his or her history, worries, stresses, joys, and hopes?
2.   Share Fondness and Admiration: The antidote for contempt, this level focuses on the amount of affection and respect within a relationship. (To strengthen fondness and admiration, express appreciation, and respect.)
3.   Turn Towards: State your needs, be aware of bids for connection and respond to (turn towards) your partner. The small moments of everyday life are the building blocks of relationships.
4.   The Positive Perspective: The presence of a positive approach to problem solving and the success of repair attempts.
5.   Manage Conflict: We say “manage” conflict rather than “resolve” conflict, because relationship conflict is natural and has functional, positive aspects. Understand that there is a critical difference in handling perpetual problems and solvable problems.
6.   Make Life Dreams Come True: Create an atmosphere that encourages each person to talk honestly about his or her hopes, values, convictions, and aspirations.
7.   Create Shared Meaning: Understand important visions, narratives, myths, and metaphors about your relationship.
8.   Trust: This is the state that occurs when a person knows that his or her partner acts and thinks to maximize that person’s best interests and benefits, not just the partner’s own interests and benefits. In other words, this means, “my partner has my back and is there for me.”
9.   Commitment: This means believing (and acting on the belief) that your relationship with this person is completely your lifelong journey, for better or for worse (meaning that if it gets worse you will both work to improve it). It implies cherishing your partner’s positive qualities and nurturing gratitude by comparing the partner favorably with real or imagined others, rather than trashing your partner by magnifying negative qualities, and nurturing resentment by comparing unfavorably with real or imagined others.

FAQs

Couples can choose to log in together or on separate devices depending on what works best for your specific situation. I use Zoom and SimplePractice, both HIPAA compliant platforms, to ensure that all sessions are confidential. My licenses allow me to provide online therapy, throughout the states of Indiana, Iowa, Arkansas, Michigan, and Florida.
Sometimes it’s hard for couples to coordinate their schedules in order to meet for couple’s sessions. Meeting online can better accommodate your busy schedules and work travel. It is actually more convenient for you!
The first session typically takes an hour to an hour and 15 mins. After our first couple’s session, ongoing sessions are typically 50-60 minutes however longer sessions can be requested.
Additionally, after our first session I may request to meet with you each individually for 45-60 minutes so I can obtain more detailed individual history.
Yes! Separation, fighting, or one partner leaning out can be a difficult time. No better time to work on making the best decision for the future of the relationship and yourself with individual therapy.
Although you only have the power to change yourself, making positive changes can motivate your partner as well. Focusing on self-improvement can have a positive effect on your relationship and may result in healthy feedback from your partner.
-History and/or ongoing physical violence, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, or abuse of any type within the relationship. I would be happy to provide a referral
-Current affair and not ready or willing to end the affair
-Addiction and Active substance abuse - If one or both partners struggle with addictions, or substance abuse, the addiction and/or abuse itself needs to be addressed with specialized treatment. I would be happy to provide a referral. Couples therapy can be offered once treatment has started and has been consistent.
-Filed for divorce, separated, or divorce likely. I will work with you individually and refer you out as a couple for high conflict, discernment counseling, or divorce specialist.
My goal as your therapist is to be on the side of the relationship and as Dr. Gottman said, “My job is to make myself obsolete”.
Taking sides or blaming one partner will not serve your relationship. I will be with you both while you create new patterns so you can both feel nurtured and supported.
Couples counseling is personalized to meet your needs, goals, and schedules. The amount of sessions and length of time can vary greatly. Many couples attend between 6-8 regular sessions, followed by quarterly maintenance sessions or even enjoy doing an annual relationship checkup.
$150 per (50 minutes) standard session
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$39 Gottman Relationship Checkup Assessment